2014… So Far..

Well, we moved..  So far so.. ok, not so good.  The move itself was fine.  It was kind of nice to move from such a HUGE house to something more manageable.  IF she’d only help MANAGE it.  :\  It’s soo small, anything out of place and it looks like a cluttered mess.  I’m ready to rip her hair out (what’s left of it) and sit on her, and honestly I don’t even know what to do anymore.  She won’t listen.  She pretends to, and says “Ok, Mom, got it”.. blah blah blah.  Whatever.  Anyway, seems I wasn’t all that smart moving DOWNSTAIRS.  After living in the house, (2 stories) and my knees getting worse, I figured downstairs is perfect.  Until the lelefants moved in above me.  WHO DOES LAUNDRY AT 4AM!?!?!  Or HAND washes dishes at 1am?!  Someone up there is really into some kind of twerkin, zumba, hip hop, stomponthedamnfloor dancin shit, and it SUCKS.  I have tuned much of it out (having kids makes that easier) but she constantly complains about them.  And my poor Mojo, if they drop something up there, Mo instantly jumps up and looks around like some stealth FBI dog or something.  She’s gonna die of a heart attack.  She’s done SOO good with being potty trained, she holds everything until we get home and then we take her out and she’s good.  Sometimes tho she’ll wake me up at 2am to go out, but it’s cool because she’s not shit in the house or anything for 2 weeks so far! It is SOOO hard not having ALL my dogs, I won’t go into it, because it still hurts too damn much…  So, I’m looking into spending the extra $300 or so that I wanted to SAVE every month, and moving to the 2 br 2 car garage.  Bottom floor is the garage and washer / dryer.  Middle is kitchen, dining, living room, her room, bathroom and walk in closet, and MY room is the top (QUIET) with the loft and my bathroom and bigger walk in closet.  I say I am HOPING to do this.  I’ve been there 2 weeks, and it’s just too small, and the lelefants will drive me mad.  I talked to the leasing office and now just waiting to hear what the mucky mucks say about it.  Cross your fingers!!
Tomorrow is back to court.  Yay.. (laced heavily with sarcasm). 
We went last month, where I turned in pages and pages of everything going on etc… and he showed up with no lawyer.  Seems he got dropped. Quelle Horreur.   NOT!  It was bound to happen.  Anyway, seeing as he had no lawyer he played stupid and said he didn’t know HOW to turn in the requested papers that he needed (with over a month to FIND HELP, WHATEVER LOSER).  So the “sub” judge that day decided that we needed to go back to mediation and that the kid needed to as well, and let’s all meet back “tomorrow”.  I put in my papers for her to see him every other Saturday 8 am – 8 pm.  That’s it.  Since she HASN’T seen him since last year, she’s on HONOR ROLL.  She’s not stressed about him, she concentrates on her homework and DOES IT etc…  I see no need for week day visits just so he can yell at her… again.  Now, after she went to her mediation and told me what she said to the lady, I don’t THINK he’ll actually get any because even when he sent the sheriff to my house, to make her go see him, the sheriff said “We can’t make her go, you have a good night” and left.  So… we’ll see what they say.   
Found out a good friend of mine is going to be divorcing.  He left her, no reason why nothing.  Just “I’m done”.  I personally can understand that, because that was me when I left.  I was DONE.  Seems he’s lied and there is someone else, after repeatedly denying it.   Long story short, caught him.  And what’s worse, it’s a friend of Hers.  😥  So, spending time with her, doing what I can to be supportive.  And I have court tomorrow for my own crap.  Easter is next weekend, and we were invited to go the Havafew for it.  (Not taking the boat out tho).  We decided to go (yesterday) and today I thought about it, they will be gone, so bug and I can be home this weekend and NOT have to do anything for anyone.  We can go to the community breakfast with the Easter Bunny and just do “our thing” and talk and get back to some kind of “normal”, together.  Whatever that is.

Sometimes you don’t realize you’re actually drowning when you are trying to be everyone else’s anchor

Things happen…

For a reason. 🙂  So y’all know I REALLY wanted to move to that house in Eastvale..  They chose to rent to someone else.  I was seriously bummed when I found out.  But I am learning more and more that things REALLY DO happen for a reason.  I don’t have to KNOW the reason, or even like it, but they happen.  Turns out, I don’t have to move… yet.  Looks like the landlord got the financial mess cleaned up and therefore I get another summer with my pool.  I should say my dogs pool.  Its NOT heated but the dogs will go swimming ANY chance they get… so will Dano actually.  HAHA  It’s another “good day”… it’s kinda nice having more of these days than shitty ones.  I hate shitty days.  Tonight I decided to start back doing pilates, and trying to work out again.  I hit a plateau on my weight loss, and I noticed that my butt is trying to touch the ground… Gravity sucks.  (Don’t ask… that bird just made me smile!!  LOL)


So happy I could spit..

I spend so much time trying to be optimistic for others.  Cheer everyone else up.. “It’s going to be ok”  “Trust me, It will all work out”  “Tomorrow is another day” etc blah blah..  Rather than go on about more drivel, I’ll get right to it.  I just learned that my landlord at the house I am currently renting for the last 2 1/2 years, decided to let the house go into foreclosure.  BUZZKILL!  Love my house.  Well, THE house.  Rather than typically freaking out and wondering “What’s going to happen to me!?!?”.. I went another route altogether.  It’s funny.. when I realized that eventually I will have to move, I started picking the house apart.  “Those cracks in the concrete will cost a fortune to fix.  The coping is coming away from the pool wall, THAT will cost a grip of cash.  This 70’s linoleum is just hideous”.. you know, things like that.  haha  LOVE having a pool.  But the more I think about it, the cost of the water I had to put in the pool, the cost of electricity of running the pump every night etc…  I think I am ok with NOT having a pool.  What are friends for?!  haha  So, I changed my selfish thinking.  I need to move to a home that is ideally located close to the Jr High school and the High school so Dano can walk to school.  Saving money on the water and the electric, AND saving daycare costs… will allow me to move into a “nicer” home.  I think it’s time for that.  Dano’s “Dad” has made things very shitty to say the least.  Back to talking thru his lawyer.   Whatever. My point is, regardless of all this… It is a GOOD THING!  It’s time for a change.  A new start.  If you follow my blog, you know I’ve made some changes in the past year, and this will be the icing on the cake.  I found a house last night on line, and contacted the “agent” to set up a time to see the house.  Turns out he’s the homeowner, NOT the agent.  I like that a LOT.  It’s almost impossible to deal with “leasing agents” or whatever, to try to get ANYTHING fixed in the house.  I’m a I’ll fix it with your approval, and take it off the rent… repair and deduct kind of girl.   Anyway, I’ve bored you enough.  Life is throwing me a bunch of shit, but it’s “OK”… I can handle it.  I always have.  Might post more later, after I see the house.  Me and Dano are gonna be just fine, and we BOTH can’t stop smiling today… 😉    Happy Friday and Happy Easter.